I realize when I set out to imitate Gretchen Rubin’s happiness project, I didn’t really explain what I was planning to do. Basically in order to answer my three questions of the year (1. what makes a family? 2. what do I want to do with my life? and 3. what is fun and how do I have it?) I’m going to adopt three resolutions (one for each question) each month to help me explore the question. I’m also going to read at least one book related to each question (for the fun question, I’m just going to read a book that sounds fun).
Though I began this quest on November 10th (officially-ish), I didn’t want to wait until December to make my first batch of resolutions. So here they are:
- For work: make this website. Ta-da!
- For fun: hang out with myself for two hours on Wednesday evenings and Saturday mornings.
- For family: have family dinners six times a week.
So far, its been working out, though not quite as intensely as I imagined. In order of most successful to least successful: Family dinners are happening at a rate closer to 4-5 times a week instead of six. This is still a dramatic improvement over the previous status quo, at least in terms of my personal happiness (certain other people who live here might beg to differ, but I think that time is on my side). It seemed like a good place to start, this being the month of Thanksgiving: a holiday whose whole purpose is to enjoy food with friends and family, and be grateful for what we have.
My work resolution falls somewhere in the middle. I think it is important to have “a room of one’s own” on the internet, which is why I wanted my own domain name and to expand the subject matter of Misspending My Youth. I also knew this was not going to be a month of daily posting, though perhaps next month? Playing around with a new site though brings its own frustrations. One night this week I sat on my computer fighting with wordpress for hours until it was past my bedtime and I hadn’t done anything relaxing or fun all evening and I hadn’t successfully learned anything about using wordpress. Frustrating. So I think one thing I’m going to have to figure out is how to do work (writing, poetry, art) and share it without getting bogged down in the tech.
Fun is going to be the hardest thing to figure out because it is the least like work. Work is work and even building a family can be work-ish: tasks and chores and to-do lists and books to read. Fun is something else entirely. I have mostly failed to make myself take fun time. Last Wednesday, I stayed at work late instead of going to the new library downtown (still haven’t gone). Saturday, I donated blood and had meetings. I did have fun with a friend that evening, which made me realize maybe part of my problem is I have more fun with friends so I’m more likely to trade my fun alone time for fun with a friend if one is available. But then I feel guilty for having the wrong kind of fun? That is probably not normal. This morning I did go hang out in the park in the sunshine by myself, so I am trying it out and I like it when I do stick to the required fun time.
I still have another week of November, but I’m already thinking about resolutions for December. Since it is Christmas, for fun, I’m thinking of giving myself a little gift every day, inspired by this Twin Peaks thing I found on Austin Kleon’s tumblr.
It seems like a good thing to do, and I know I’ll find it basically impossible, so. For family, I want to continue having family dinners as often as is feasible. I also want to add on Gretchen Rubin’s resolution to kiss in the morning and kiss at night. For work, I’m thinking of doing one creative thing and sharing it each day. Could be a blog post, could be a tweet, could be a poem. Hillary Kitten’s social media probably won’t count unless it is really good. I’ll post a final decision on Dec. 1st, and maybe even a November money update (still doing it, still love it).